Thursday, February 28, 2019

Reflections of Coping


Reflections in Coping

Ps 139:1-6
   "O LORD, you have searched me and you know me
    You know when I sit and when I rise;
        You perceive my thoughts from afar.  
    You discern my going out and my lying down;
        you are familiar with all my ways.
    Before a word is on my tongue
        you know it completely; O LORD."

These six verses from the 139th Psalm reveal something incredible about the understanding and knowledge of God.  The Psalmist is saying that God knows more about him than he knows about himself.  The human personality has been referred to with the picture of the iceberg.  I have some amazing pictures that show the pictures of the icebergs above and below the surface of the water.  Icebergs are massive in their size when looking out on the water, they are sometimes very tall and some flat.  But the reason that the human personality is referred to as an iceberg is that the part of the iceberg that you can see is only 20% of the whole piece of ice floating on the water.  Just imagine the biggest icebergs on the water only show 20% of what the whole thing is in size. 
     

We are very much like this and everyone knows this.  You can know a person for many years and still learn more about them each new day.  In counseling I find it astounding when I ask just a few questions and my client has a ‘light-bulb moment’.  That moment when they find that they have found out something new about their own personality.   I don't reveal it, they reveal it and I am there to witness them first understanding this truth about them that they never knew before. 
     

The Psalmist is saying in this passage that God already knows what we do know and the things that we don't know about ourselves.  There is nothing about me that God does not know.  This is important in coping with grief.   Grief is the reality of experiencing what is beneath the surface of the iceberg In You!  Coping with grief is, You exploring what is already under the surface to know yourself better and understand how you connect that reality with life.  The realities of life are sometimes too harsh and we need God to help us understand and settle in with who we are and how to maneuver through in a way that is pleasing to Him.
     

Are you turning to the Lord in your feelings?  Are you talking with Him in your journal or your secret closet?  Are you calling out to Him in prayer?  The great thing about God is that you don't always have to say anything while communicating with Him.  The Holy Ghost reveals what needs to be communicated and you can know that God is in the midst (Remember Romans 8:26-28).  This is why the Psalm here is so important.  God knows who we are and is willing to comfort us in the middle of our  time of self-discovery. The exciting and the dirty. This does usually looks so good and it can get rater ugly to understand yourself. But God…. He is good…

 He will support because he made you and you will find peace....

The Promise here is that God has searched me and knows everything above and below the surface of what is my own experience and how I relate to the reality in which I find myself. 
        God is not lacking in knowledge but He also is never lacking to offer comfort to the hurting.  

 

Friday, February 22, 2019

Come to the Convergence of Superheroes!

           


Are you registered for the ACGR?  
Chaplain and Shibana Cutter are looking forward to meeting you!
     




Come and Reflect, Refresh and Renew!  



The Retreat will take place on Fri. May 31st  from 9:00 am- 4:00pm, beginning with a mild breakfast, lunch on your own.  
The attendance fee for the Retreat is $25.00.  Register by May 15th Late registration after $35.00, (call Chaplain Cutter (770-969-8354) or (678-763-1871 or go to www.walkingtogethernow.blogspot.com  to pay online.

Participants will meet at Stone Mountain Park, GA:
1000 Robert E. Lee Blvd, Stone Mountain, GA 30083
   Meeting at the Gristmill Pavilion 

Download the Teamup app for connection to the Retreat Supers

What happens when Super heroes come together?



         When super heroes come together it’s not like when Doctors, or Lawyers or construction workers come together.  When these folks gather, it usually pertains to the upward /forward movement of a plan for a company or a certain goal. 
When Super Heroes gather we look around and say, “Oh boy, what is happening now?”  If you watch the movies, Super Heroes come together usually to solve a major problem that will affect the lives of people and devastate the world at large.   Just think, Superman can take care of the villains who want to accomplish an evil goal on the town or city or community.  But when Superman gets Batman and Wonder Woman together…. That means he needs help.



           When the super heroes get together, people’s lives are on the line and they are there to attack a huge problem in the world.
        It is important to recognize the real super heroes in our day.   Persons who deliver ‘life-on-life’ care.  You may have read my blog to see me use this term in the past.  I have a whole Theory on this idea of ‘life-on-life’ care. 

         Super heroes are people who give their special talents to support the lives of people whom they don’t even know.  They understand their responsibility to the populous for the greater good of all.  Mind you, a super hero is not just a person with those special abilities but someone who actually uses the powers he/she has to keep someone safe, comfort the soul of a hurting person or even stand in the way of oncoming agony or death. 

        The huge thing about the super hero is that they have to cope with the fact that they are different than other people.  They are just not the same.  They may look like others.  They may have human qualities but somehow they come to the conclusion that they are just different.  They cannot just pass by a huge problem and keep walking.  Remember when Peter Parker came to cope with this problem in one of the Spiderman movies?  He thought that he could just ignore the issues of life and just be a natural college student.  But that just did not work….
        
        As people who deliver Life-On-Life Care, you are a vehicle of hope for someone who needs sure support in real ways.  Somehow and for some reason God has chosen you to be affected by the maladies of life that touches another person.  And you cannot keep silent nor sit wanting to fulfill this task in life.
      Care givers are super heroes because it takes special inner skills to physically care for another person. 

       Your special abilities are so you can help people have a normal or close to normal life.  And they really appreciate that.  But you are not impervious to the human suffering that you address.   If you know much about the supers, you know that each of them has a vice.  Something, someone or some issue that, if it comes up or is brought into the area around the superhero, will stop him/her from using her powers for the good of others.  You are like this too….

       So, what is your Kryptonite?  What issue can stop you from performing your task of care giving?  Only you know but there are other supers who can help you to get beyond the problem of your vice so that you can get on to doing good with your special task in life.  We will continue this after you consider this important task of reflection.
     Continued later…..


    


Extra! Extra! Extra! 

The Annual Care Giver Retreat is on the way
May 31, 2019
                       Are you registered?   

    You can now register for the ACGR by app, text or computer...

Just go to Cash.me in the Google search site
    Sign in and setup a cash app account 
     Send registration amount to $HmanChaplain
        Registration $10.00
        You may pay the balance upon your arrival at retreat site.
     Retreat full admission $25.00 before May 15th or $35.00 after May 15th. 
     
     Great! Now you are registered for the ACGR !! 
                  Now -- Send Reply to Chaplain Cutter (hcutter@swchristiancare.org) or call 678-763-1871  to confirm registration.
Now you will receive a special instruction pack and information for the ACGR Care Giver Convergence of Superheroes !! 
      Received Only after registration...

   Do you have questions about the retreat? 
What to bring?
How to dress?
Who will be there?
How long will the sessions last?
Send a note to hmanchaplain@gmail.com